{"id":335,"date":"2013-03-19T09:44:30","date_gmt":"2013-03-19T14:44:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/jonathanbrooker.com\/?p=335"},"modified":"2013-04-19T03:15:42","modified_gmt":"2013-04-19T03:15:42","slug":"who-wins-when-i-win","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jonathanbrooker.com\/2013\/who-wins-when-i-win","title":{"rendered":"Who Wins When I Win?"},"content":{"rendered":"

There\u2019s something about winning that I just love. I tend to be a pretty competitive person just because I\u2019ve felt winning and I\u2019ve felt losing and I\u2019ve decided I just really like the one more than the other! If you like the feeling of losing you may want to save yourself some time and quit reading now. This simply isn\u2019t for you.<\/p>\n

The assumption from here on is that you want to win. But what I\u2019ve found in my context of full-time youth ministry over the last couple of years is that a \u201cwin\u201d isn\u2019t always straightforward. In fact, you can actually lose when you win<\/b>. It\u2019s all about this penetrating question of how<\/strong><\/em> you <\/i>lead: Who wins when I win?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"Who<\/p>\n

Who benefits by your success? I think it\u2019s important that we work towards success in our lives. As far as I can tell it\u2019s a God-given desire. Of course we have to watch out how we define and how we attain success. Just think of the Tower of Babel. But then there\u2019s also the difference between a success that just benefits you and one that benefits others. The first is cheap success – good for you. The second is meaningful success – this has now gone beyond you.<\/p>\n

Allow me to break it down into 3 different, distinct, and uniquely characterized categories:<\/p>\n

1. \u00a0Individual Win – \u201cThis is good for me.\u201d<\/h3>\n

This is the win that makes the biggest impact for the individual doing the winning. It\u2019s like a slam dunk contest. It brings some glory and prestige to a single individual but that\u2019s about where it ends. In our lives this is the win that helps us to achieve our personal goals, helps us to get richer, helps us to get more well-known. But that’s where it ends.<\/p>\n

2. \u00a0Team Win – \u201cThis is good for us.\u201d<\/h3>\n

This is the win that goes beyond just the one who did the \u201cwinning.\u201d Let\u2019s stick with our basketball reference for just a bit longer. If that slam dunk or a 3-point shot is the buzzer-beating winning point(s) for an actual game<\/em> then it takes on a whole different dimension. The team will storm the player who made the shot. They\u2019ll lift him up. He helped them win. But they\u2019re not shouting, \u201cYou won!!\u201d They\u2019re screaming, \u201cWe won!!\u201d The win was still definitely personal but it branched out to being a win for the whole team. That\u2019s what happens when we invest others into the \u201cwin.\u201d When they can be a part of the process of getting there, it\u2019s a team win. When they get to celebrate with us, it\u2019s a team win.<\/p>\n

3. \u00a0Beneficiaries Win – \u201cThis is good for the organization.\u201d<\/h3>\n

This takes us to a whole different level of winning. And I\u2019ll tell you, this is the absolute best win, in my opinion. This is the win that goes beyond the individual and even surpasses the team that directly made the \u201cwin\u201d happen. This is the domino effect. Leaving our basketball metaphor, this is like the cure that is discovered for a disease. The scientist who discovered it has won, and so has the team who were a part of the research and testing. But the real winners end up being the many people who can live or live better because of the cure being discovered. For us, this is the win that goes beyond our individual concerns and petty dreams and impacts people we may or may not know personally. This is what speaks to the leader\u2019s legacy rather than their reputation. These kinds of wins may not even be \u201cproperly attributed\u201d but that doesn\u2019t matter to the first domino because the win was meant to be shared and shared and shared.<\/p>\n

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All of this, quite honestly, is something I\u2019ve personally been wrestling with and thinking over a lot lately as I excitedly prepare to release my first book. There can be focus on me in that role as well as even in my role as \u201cyouth pastor\u201d but I have to be careful that I don\u2019t just get the individual win. What a loss if my<\/i> \u201cwin\u201d is only to my<\/i> advantage! I\u2019m working to make sure my wins always benefit others. I encourage you to see how you can do the same with what you do.<\/p>\n

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Now go out and win!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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